Pregnancy loss is sadly common, but our society doesn't prepare us for supporting a friend through a miscarriage or stillbirth. In my latest for FemCatholic, I give three straightfward suggestions for things to avoid and things to do instead when supporting a friend who has experienced a loss.
6 reminders for loss parents this month
3 ways to prepare for Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month
October is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month in the United States, and has been since the 1988 Congress and Ronald Reagan declared it to be so every year. Additionally, in 2001, the House of Representatives declared October 15 to be Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. October also includes Baby Loss Awareness Week (UK, 9 October – 15 October) and Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day (Canada, October 15, and Australia, October 15). Here are three ways you can prepare for these important commemorations.
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Please reconsider giving your miscarriage-bereaved friend flowers
How to administer emotional first aid when informed of a miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant death
There are many situations in which you might learn that someone has experienced the loss of a child. No matter how long ago the loss occurred, or no matter how well you know the person, their grief is real and I encourage you to validate and support them through emotional first aid. This infographic walks you through how to do that and gives you examples of what you might say.